From recent interactions on social media and in real life, I have concluded that relationships are being attributed to a goal rather than a process. I'm a believer of the fact that a relationship is just like how you drink water, there is really no end goal to it, you do it to sustain life. Whereas what I have been seeing are relationships being treated similar to achieving a goal in life, like you've unlocked a character in a video game.
I believe what leads to this is having the social image you desire, where being seen with a particular person is dictated cool, but where does this toxic nature of being in a relationship just for the sake of social image even if the relationship is toxic originate? I say it's our hyper sexualized environment.
What I mean by the hyper sexualized environment is the constant objectification of the opposite gender, the ability to see beyond the opposite gender's sexual and physical characteristics seems to decline day by day. What makes the environment around us hypersexual exists in a spectrum, from mainstream porn, unsolicited genitalia pictures being normalized to the unrealistic beauty standard being set by the society; anyone failing to secure a partner within these standards or sometimes someone who is not even considering being in a relationship is considered a loser. Essentially our society would rather see us be in a relationship which is toxic rather than not being in one at all and most individuals being people who care about external validation follow this not so good culture.
If you were to ask me, I'd say it's best to be with a person with whom you share not only a physical connection but an emotional one as well cause realistically speaking physical beauty and sexual characteristics change over time but what would likely remain is an emotional connection.
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